This is Part 3 of a 6-Essay Series on using Qi Gong to more clearly see what is holding us back. Link to all the essays from the end of this post.
In Part 2, we learned that limiting beliefs are not bad. They are simply beliefs that once helped or protected us but now work against us. In this essay, we will tackle where all these “nasty” beliefs come from.
Where Do Our Beliefs Come From?
There are seven main influences on our beliefs. They are not as obvious an influence as going to church on Sunday, but once you know how you are being influenced, it is easier to tune-in to positive sources of information.
1. From Family Members and Friends
Those close to you and those who raised you worked to help you enter the world as a capable adult. Their ideas about money, safety, race, and what you are capable of undoubtedly registered in your psyche. In their defense, they were trying to keep you safe and help you avoid disappointment. But what if their experience was more dangerous, limited, or impoverished than yours? From generation to generation this is often the case. Their (your adopted) belief system served a purpose but might now be more limiting than helpful.
2. From Our Culture
Race, gender, age, and nationality all carry strong beliefs and sometimes cleverly hide negative beliefs behind pride. You get a double whammy from cultural influence. Not only do YOU believe certain things about yourself, if you get past that you have to confront stereotypes from what OTHERS think about you.
3. From the Media
Media gets funded based on ratings. High ratings are based on listener and viewer engagement. Engagement is increased when events are more negative and disastrous. What is more newsworthy:
An officer was killed in the line of duty today. – 30 million were not.
10 major stocks fell today on the Dow Jones Industrial Average – 489 rose.
3388 killed on the roads in Texas this year alone. – It is the lowest number ever.
All 6 statements above are true. Which do you think will get reported on? How do you think the media’s reporting of these events would influence your beliefs about the state of the country or economy?
4. From Corporations
It goes without saying that your willingness to buy something is often dependent on your belief of whether or not you need or deserve it. Advertising understands the psychology of belief all too well. It is not underhanded. They believe their product will meet your needs are trying to convince you of that. It is the residue left on you by being exposed to some advertisement that is problematic.
For example, let’s say you purchase a vacation after watching a commercial of a man falling asleep at his desk, getting irritated with his family, and eating horribly. “Is this you?” the commercial asks. Conversely, what if you book the same vacation because you believe you had an amazing year? Same action, but your beliefs around the vacation will dramatically influence how you perceive the trip and the advertisement had a lot to do with it. Or as Southwest Airlines puts it: “Wanna get away?”
5. From Sickness
Symptoms are messages that the body is sending to give you clues to help it heal. Whether the physical symptom is a headache, runny nose, or a more serious diagnosis, your body is starting a dialogue with you. And how do you currently perceive these symptoms? Do you ignore them? Power through? Disguise the pain with drugs? If so, you might “believe” that your body is betraying you, or that you are weak. How do you think your health would change if you believed that this dialogue with your body is the starting point for healing?
6. From traumatic emotional events
Let’s face it, humans can be really awful to humans. And when we are on the receiving end of this awfulness, we don’t want it to happen again, we avoid, we protect, we resent, we anger, and we rage for all the appropriate reasons. And after? We can continue to avoid, protect, resent, anger, and rage because these unfortunate past events have colored our perception and beliefs about the world.
7. From traumatic physical events
Memories, physical and emotional responses can actually be stored in our tissues. Studies going back as far as the late 1800s show that our posture affects our mental and emotional state. For example, frowning and walking stooped over can result in sadness and an open super-woman stance can be empowering. What can happen during physical trauma such as a car accident is that we brace ourselves in a defensive posture at the point of impact. Muscles get torn and we can be frozen in this “brace-yourself” posture as we heal. Thus, the body continues to telegraph “something bad is coming.”
We acquire most of our beliefs unconsciously. Once accepted and imprinted into our subconscious mind, it takes no effort to maintain them. For healthy beliefs and thinking, this is a really positive thing. For bad or negative beliefs, we just need to unearth the ones that are no longer needed and may be stopping us from reaching our true potential.
In Part 4 we dive deeper into WHY we have limiting beliefs and then move on to using Qi Gong to identify them (5) and get rid of them (6).
Qi Gong and Limiting Beliefs
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